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Dale Carnegie is famed in business circles over the world for his understanding of human nature, and his ability to leverage this understanding to influence greater life success.
In what is considered his most successful book, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ Carnegie offers an easy-going yet compelling guide to the principles of human interaction across four core sections – Handling People; Getting People to Like You; Getting People to Agree with You; and Being a Leader. At first glance, it can be easy to judge this book as almost being too simplistic, for example, in the section titled Handling people, Carnegie advises readers no to criticise or complain. Whilst Getting People to Like You he suggests that readers should make a committed effort to remember people’s names and smile during interactions. However, whilst it’s easy to view these suggestions as obvious, this book pushes you to review your past interactions and quickly makes you realise that in the modern world it is so easy to skip over the foundations of honest and meaningful communication.
The crux of ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ is that in society, we are often blindsided by our own issues and perspectives that we are unable to fully open up and understand that others may view the world differently. Carnegie uses detailed examples to explain how to recognise these destructive behaviours and resolve them in order to engage with others in a deeper, more sustainable way.
Despite first being published in 1937, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ is still just as relevant today and continues to top self-help and personal growth best-seller lists. Irrespective of your career or social standing, this book is an essential no-nonsense guide to being a better person and although difficult at times, allows the reader to honestly assess and develop their interpersonal skills. If you fail to feel compelled to change something about the way you interact with others after reading this book, then you’re simply not looking in the mirror hard enough.
